When someone faces something for the first time, a challenge they have never had, they fight their own anxiety and fear more than anything else.
Even after you have fired yourself up and decided you are going to do it, someone else’s “are you all right?” can sometimes shake that resolve.
What is worry?
Worry is born out of a great deal of love, out of thinking of the other person.
But worry, it is said, builds the negative image “you are not all right” inside your own head — and you cannot do that without picturing something bad happening to them.
Picturing the other person reaching an even happier future is what cheering them on is.Unlike worry, that brings positive energy down on them, and a completely different future arrives.
So rather than being worried about, I would like to be cheered on — and I want to be someone who does that for others too.
Statistically, ninety per cent of what we worry about never happens anyway (laughs), and a life spent mostly worrying is no fun. Though being considerate is a lovely thing in itself.
Trusting the other person
“Whatever happens, it’ll be fine! I believe in your decision!”
For the person being worried about, taking in the other person’s worry as love, and still saying “even so, I’m doing this” — that is also a moment your own self is tested.
Neither brushing worry off as an annoyance nor being shaken by it,and neither avoiding it — for both the one worrying and the one worried about, facing the fear inside yourself is where real growth comes from.
Believing in yourself
Facing this challenge myself, I mean to trust what I have decided and resolved, rather than worry over it.
Even if nobody else believes in me, I have decided that I, at least, will believe in myself and be my own first ally. Even without the result I picture, right now, I am still partway along the road.
So I want to be someone who can cheer on somebody else’s challenge too.
